It’s my anniversary today. Ten years with the same guy, and six of those married. I’ve been watching anime on Saturday nights with the same guy for a decade. We’ve been laughing at YouTube videos together for 10 years. We’ve had to watch each other grow and change for 10 years.
Please don’t confuse our tenure with endless bliss and fantastical romance. Our love story is a beautiful one, but not because of how much it resembles a romantic comedy – it DOESN’T resemble a romantic comedy at all. This relationship has made us both stronger. We’ve experienced euphoric highs, and pain staking lows. We almost called it quits in 2014.
Six years ago, I stood at an altar with my hands wrapped in his and I repeated the lines that our officiant spoke that were to be my vows. Being that I am a writer, and English is his third language, he told me he didn’t want us to write our own vows. I obliged, understanding the circumstances. However, on this sixth anniversary, one that I wasn’t sure we would make it to just six months ago, I do have some important vows to write…
We said, “I do,” as so many other couples have before and after, but “I do,” continues long after the ceremony ends.
I do reflect fondly on the decision we made to marry six years ago.
I do cherish the family and life we’ve built together.
I do see how we’ve changed, for better and for worse.
I do love that you love my faults.
I do love your faults, too.
I do appreciate that you go easy on me when I am hardest on myself.
I do accept my share of responsibility for allowing our marriage to become what it once was.
I do thank you for being willing to try.
I do want us to have more kids.
I do look forward to our future.